I have a younger sibling and it seems like I am always helping her. In college I would help her with essays. I would listen to her problems, if she got stuck somewhere I would go and pick her up. She is 24 now and it has got pretty clear that she doesn’t reciprocate helping out. Or does any favors for family.
My brother and I have both noticed it. I had a conversation with her about it and she said she would do better. Recently she asked if I could use my house to her engagement dinner and I agreed. It was a big favor in my opinion and I have been helping plan it. My sister lives very close to my kids daycare. I left work and on the way home there was a huge crash on the highway. I wasn’t moving at all (it took me 4 hours to get to home). My husband was also stuck in it. The day care called asking where I was and I told them I amtrying to get there. They bill an extra 100 ever 30 mins you are late. I called my sister and asked her to pick up the kids and just hold on to them for a few hours until I can grab them. She told me no and that she wanted to relax tonight. I told her I really need her to do this favor becuase I was stuck and it didn’t seem like I would be moving anytime soon.
I told her I will Venmo her the money for the daycare but to please pick them up. She told me no again and hung up. I ended up calling my MIL, who is an hour away and she was able to pick the kids up and say at our place until we got back around 9. I was in traffic for 4 hours. Tbh I have been pissed since that happened last Thursday. I have helped her over and over again and she could do me a simple favor when she is literally 10 mins away from the daycare becuase she wanted to relax… I talked it over and my husband and I both agreed we were done helping her.
I sent her a text that said, family is suppose to help each other and it has became clear that she only ever wants help and is not willing to help. I told her I will not being hosting her engagement party and will not do her any favors anymore. She called and we got into a huge argument where I called her selfish and she called me petty. I want an outsiders opinion becuase I am pissed about this whole thing.
